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How Should You Treat Your Friends? | 朋友之间应该如何相处?

嘿大家!你们有没有与朋友争吵过?又或许因此与他们分道扬镳?我就有过这样的经历。朋友应该算得上是我们一生当中最重要的一部份吧!人生短短几十年,遇见的人虽多,能留在身边的人却屈指可数。本身,我认为一个人不需要拥有一个很广大的朋友圈,但一定需要至少一位可靠、可信的朋友。即使只有一位朋友,只要可信,那便足矣。我们今天就来探讨朋友之间应该如何相处,希望也能帮各位巩固人际关系哦!

Hey everyone! Ever fought with your friends? Or perhaps you’re unable to go back to old times of being good friends? Well, I have. Friends are undoubtedly one of the most important parts of life. Within our few decades of living, there are a lot of people whom we meet, but those that actually stay with us can be counted with our fingers. Personally, I agree with the point that we need not have a huge friend group, but we definitely need a few trustworthy ones. Even if it’s only one, as long as you can rely on him/her, it’s good enough. Let’s talk about how we should treat each other as friends and hopefully this helps you with your friendships.

Building Trust | 建立信任

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建立信任听起来很简单,但实际上这却是一件很难的事。这是因为信任是双方面的付出。你跟你的朋友都需要不断地给予对方信任和依靠才能够建立彼此间的信任。相信大家对信任这个词都不会陌生,那信任到底是什么?简单地说,信任是指你愿意相信和依赖另一个人。你会觉得对方是诚实、可靠、正直的。在一段友谊当中,信任是非常重要的。建立了与朋友之间的信任,你们就会消除对对方的猜忌,而这也会避免一些不必要的争议。

我们又该怎么做才能建立与朋友间的信任呢?最简单的方法就是信守承诺啦!当你向朋友承诺一件事时,你需要确保自己能够遵守并完成这个承诺。如果觉得自己不能完成承诺,就在一开始的时候跟朋友坦白说明,而不是随口答应,却又无法信守给出的承诺。其次,当朋友告诉我们一些秘密的话,我们一定要保守秘密,不要随意传播。若朋友愿意将自己的私事分享给我们,这说明他们信任我们。因此,我们也不能辜负他们对我们的信任。大家切记,虽然说信任是友谊中重要的一部分,但却不是全部。友谊的成立,也包含了许多其他因素。

Building trust may seem like a simple thing to do, but in actual fact, it is no easy feat. Trust requires both parties to put in effort in order to exist. Only when you and your friend constantly provide a sense of trust and reliability to each other, will you be able to “build up” the trust in your friendship. I believe most of you are not strangers to the word “trust”, but what does it actually mean? Simply put, trust is the willingness to believe and rely on another party, leading you to think that the other party is honest, reliable, and upright. In a friendship, trust is of utmost importance. With trust, you avoid assumptions about each other, preventing unnecessary fights.  

How should we “build” trust between our friends then? I would say one of the best and simplest methods would be to keep your word. When you promise your friend something, do make sure to complete the promise. If you think that you are unable to do it, then let your friend know, instead of making the promise only to break it. In another instance, should your friend let you in on a secret, make sure to keep it that way and not spread it. When our friend lets us in on a personal matter or secret, it means that they trust us. As such, we should not break the trust that they have in us. Do remember however, while trust is an important part in friendship, there are still many other components which make up a good friendship.

Providing Support and Encouragement | 鼓励对方

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在朋友遇到困难的时候,我们尽自己的能力去帮助和鼓励他们。我们常说朋友就像是我们的家人。既然是家人,我们就应该在他们遇到难处的时候,陪伴在他们身边,给予他们支持和鼓励。简单的一句“我会一直支持你的。”也可以是帮助他们熬过难关的动力。无论你选择做什么,最重要的是要让朋友感受到关怀,让他知道他并不是一个人,而你会在他的身后支持他。如果你不会用言语来安慰朋友,你也可以用行动来表示你的关心。比如说:看到他时,送一点小零食,让他的心情好一些。

我知道有的时候,我们或许会觉得自己的一句话起不了太大的安慰作用,但其实我们低估了自己。一句简短的“加油”也可以化身为黑暗中的一把火炬,帮助你的朋友找到希望,带领他走出黑暗。所以,在朋友需要关怀的时候,我们千万不要吝啬自己对他们的关心。

In times of need, we should always try our best to support our friends. We always say that friends are like family. Since they are family, it’s only right that we help them when they need it and accompany them while giving support and encouragement. A simple sentence like “I will always support you” could easily help one push through their hardest times. Whatever you choose to do, I think that the most important thing is to let your friend feel the concern, let them know that they aren’t alone and that you are always supporting them from behind. If you’re unsure of how to use words to console your friend, you can do it through actions! For instance, give them some snacks to make them feel better (P.S. Sweets often do the trick!).

I know that sometimes, we may feel like what we do or say isn’t going to be much use to our friends, but that isn’t the case. In fact, you underestimate yourselves. One short phrase like “All the best!” can become light in a place of darkness, helping your friend to find hope and walk out of darkness. As such, when friends need help, we should never restrict our concerns for them.

Keeping In Touch With Each Other | 保持联系

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在人生当中,我们会面临许多与朋友分开的时刻。但这是不是代表着友谊的尽头吗?并不是的。一个简单的例子就是我们与中学朋友。中学毕业后,我们跟中学的朋友或许会选择不同的道路,而不同的道路则意味着我们需要分开。随着各自的生活不同,朋友间见面的机会变少,联络的次数也随之减少,与朋友的关系也渐渐疏远。

我相信没有人会希望这样的情况发生。所以,我们要与朋友保持联系,维持彼此的友谊。例如说,我们可以通过社交平台跟朋友分享一些有趣的事情,并以此建立话题。此外,如果你跟你的朋友都方便的话,你们也可以找个时间,约出来一起吃顿饭,分享自己的近况。你不需要每天都跟你的朋友外出,一个月见一次面其实就足够了。与朋友保持联系能让我们了解彼此的近况,从而巩固我们之间的友谊。

In life, it is inevitable that we are separated from our friends at times. However, this doesn’t necessarily mean that it is the end of the friendship. An example would be us and our Secondary School friends. After graduating, we proceed on different paths, in which many of us do not take on the same paths as our friends, indicating separation. As we move on to live our own lives, the number of times we meet as friends decreases, so do the number of times we contact each other. Eventually, we ourselves and our friends are distanced. 

I believe that none of us would like for something like that to happen. Hence, to maintain this precious friendship, we need to constantly keep in touch with our friends. For instance, we can maintain contact on social media by sharing interesting topics, thereby starting conversations. Additionally, if it’s convenient for you and your friends, you can set a date to meet up for a meal and catch up. Simply put, you need not go out with your friends everyday, something like just once a month would do. The main point of it is to catch up with each other, and strengthen your friendship! 

Respecting One Another | 尊重彼此

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对于绝大多数的人来说,我相信我们都会渴望得到他人的尊重,朋友之间也不例外。真正的好朋友应该是互相尊重的。当一段友情发展良好的时候,我们与朋友就会变得亲密无间。可是,这不意味我们可以越过对方的底线。任何人都会有一个他人不可逾越的底线。虽然我们与朋友的关系很好,但我们还是需要给予对方最基本的尊重。如果感觉自己不小心触碰到了对方的底线,那我们就要懂得停止,转换话题,不要仗着对方对我们的宽容而冒犯对方。

不仅如此,我们也不应该给朋友贴标签,或以高贵和低贱来给他们进行区分。例如:如果朋友的考试成绩不理想,不要嘲笑他们。相反的,关心他们,并以委婉的方式询问他们需不需要帮助。真正的朋友是彼此尊重且携手前行的。

To most people, we yearn to be respected by others, including our friends no less. True friends should respect each other. When everything goes well, we become close with our friends. This however, doesn’t and should not mean that we can push their limits. Anyone, even ourselves, have limits which we do not wish for others to push through. Although we may be close to our friends, basic respect is still a necessity. If you feel that you’ve accidentally gone over the limits, know to stop and change the topic or apologise. Never ever take their tolerance for granted just because you are “close friends”.

Additionally, we shouldn’t labelise friends or differentiate them in terms of how rich or how poor they are. For example, should a friend not meet his expectations for an examination, do not make fun of them. Instead, care for them and ask them in an indirect manner if they need any help. Remember this, true friends always respect each other and never leave each other behind.

Resolve All Conflicts | 解决冲突

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冲突在人际关系中是无法避免的。或是小事,或是大事,我们都会因意见不合而与朋友起争执。那问题来了:既然冲突是无法避免的,那我们该如何化解这些冲突呢?一个简单的解决方法就是等双方都冷静下来后,坐下里一起来讨论解决方案。当我们生气的时候,我们很容易被情绪牵着走。经常,我们会在跟朋友发生冲突的时候说一些气话。尽管自己是无心要说的,但往往你已经伤害到了对方。所以,在与朋友争执之后,先找个地方,自己一个人冷静下来。冷静下来后,从自己和对方的角度思考。如果是自己太冲动,那就跟朋友道个歉。如果是对方的错,那就约他出来,婉转地告诉他。

有时候,我们或许会因为觉得说“对不起”很难堪,却没有意料到这三个字却是解决冲突的最佳方案。我们不能让小的问题膨胀成大的矛盾。当我们与朋友之间发生了矛盾也应该及时解决而不是放任它不管。

Conflicts are inevitable where social interaction between humans is involved. No matter how big a certain matter, there will always be disagreements which result in conflict. Then here comes the question. How do we resolve something that is inevitable? A simple solution is to actually wait till both parties have calmed down. Sit down and sort things out. When we are angry, we are very easily controlled by our emotions. This is where we often say mean things to our friends. Although you might not mean it, the harm has already been done. Hence, after a disagreement, always find a place to calm down first. After calming down, think about the issue from your own and the other party’s perspective. If you realise you’re in fault, apologise. If you’re not, find a chance to tell it to the other party in a not-so-direct manner.

At times, “sorry” may seem hard to come out of our mouths, but it is also the very word that can solve most, if not all conflicts. We cannot and must not let a small issue evolve into a huge one. Therefore, should a conflict occur, always settle it firsthand and not let it sit in a corner untouched.

总结

朋友是我们生活中的支柱之一,是与我们没有血缘关系的家人。他们给予我们陪伴,帮助我们进步,让我们不再孤单。我们一生当中或许会遇到许多朋友,可遇到的真心朋友却是少之又少。所以,我们要珍惜那些能交心的朋友。希望以上的一些建议能够帮助你们维持与朋友之间的友谊。今天就写到这里,我们下次见!拜拜!

Friends are an important pillar of support in our lives even though they have no blood relations to us. They give us company, help us improve, and prevent us from being too lonely. We may meet many friends in our lives, but true ones are really hard to find. Hence, cherish those whom you are able to speak your heart to. Hopefully, through the suggestions and tips above, you’re able to maintain that wonderful friendship of yours. Today’s blog shall end here. We shall meet again next time. Bye!

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