Hey everyone! Ever fought with your friends? Or perhaps you’re unable to go back to old times of being good friends? Well, I have. Friends are undoubtedly one of the most important parts of life. Within our few decades of living, there are a lot of people whom we meet, but those that actually stay with us can be counted with our fingers. Personally, I agree with the point that we need not have a huge friend group, but we definitely need a few trustworthy ones. Even if it’s only one, as long as you can rely on him/her, it’s good enough. Let’s talk about how we should treat each other as friends and hopefully this helps you with your friendships.
Building Trust | 建立信任
Building trust may seem like a simple thing to do, but in actual fact, it is no easy feat. Trust requires both parties to put in effort in order to exist. Only when you and your friend constantly provide a sense of trust and reliability to each other, will you be able to “build up” the trust in your friendship. I believe most of you are not strangers to the word “trust”, but what does it actually mean? Simply put, trust is the willingness to believe and rely on another party, leading you to think that the other party is honest, reliable, and upright. In a friendship, trust is of utmost importance. With trust, you avoid assumptions about each other, preventing unnecessary fights.
How should we “build” trust between our friends then? I would say one of the best and simplest methods would be to keep your word. When you promise your friend something, do make sure to complete the promise. If you think that you are unable to do it, then let your friend know, instead of making the promise only to break it. In another instance, should your friend let you in on a secret, make sure to keep it that way and not spread it. When our friend lets us in on a personal matter or secret, it means that they trust us. As such, we should not break the trust that they have in us. Do remember however, while trust is an important part in friendship, there are still many other components which make up a good friendship.
Providing Support and Encouragement | 鼓励对方
In times of need, we should always try our best to support our friends. We always say that friends are like family. Since they are family, it’s only right that we help them when they need it and accompany them while giving support and encouragement. A simple sentence like “I will always support you” could easily help one push through their hardest times. Whatever you choose to do, I think that the most important thing is to let your friend feel the concern, let them know that they aren’t alone and that you are always supporting them from behind. If you’re unsure of how to use words to console your friend, you can do it through actions! For instance, give them some snacks to make them feel better (P.S. Sweets often do the trick!).
I know that sometimes, we may feel like what we do or say isn’t going to be much use to our friends, but that isn’t the case. In fact, you underestimate yourselves. One short phrase like “All the best!” can become light in a place of darkness, helping your friend to find hope and walk out of darkness. As such, when friends need help, we should never restrict our concerns for them.
Keeping In Touch With Each Other | 保持联系
In life, it is inevitable that we are separated from our friends at times. However, this doesn’t necessarily mean that it is the end of the friendship. An example would be us and our Secondary School friends. After graduating, we proceed on different paths, in which many of us do not take on the same paths as our friends, indicating separation. As we move on to live our own lives, the number of times we meet as friends decreases, so do the number of times we contact each other. Eventually, we ourselves and our friends are distanced.
I believe that none of us would like for something like that to happen. Hence, to maintain this precious friendship, we need to constantly keep in touch with our friends. For instance, we can maintain contact on social media by sharing interesting topics, thereby starting conversations. Additionally, if it’s convenient for you and your friends, you can set a date to meet up for a meal and catch up. Simply put, you need not go out with your friends everyday, something like just once a month would do. The main point of it is to catch up with each other, and strengthen your friendship!
Respecting One Another | 尊重彼此
To most people, we yearn to be respected by others, including our friends no less. True friends should respect each other. When everything goes well, we become close with our friends. This however, doesn’t and should not mean that we can push their limits. Anyone, even ourselves, have limits which we do not wish for others to push through. Although we may be close to our friends, basic respect is still a necessity. If you feel that you’ve accidentally gone over the limits, know to stop and change the topic or apologise. Never ever take their tolerance for granted just because you are “close friends”.
Additionally, we shouldn’t labelise friends or differentiate them in terms of how rich or how poor they are. For example, should a friend not meet his expectations for an examination, do not make fun of them. Instead, care for them and ask them in an indirect manner if they need any help. Remember this, true friends always respect each other and never leave each other behind.
Resolve All Conflicts | 解决冲突
Conflicts are inevitable where social interaction between humans is involved. No matter how big a certain matter, there will always be disagreements which result in conflict. Then here comes the question. How do we resolve something that is inevitable? A simple solution is to actually wait till both parties have calmed down. Sit down and sort things out. When we are angry, we are very easily controlled by our emotions. This is where we often say mean things to our friends. Although you might not mean it, the harm has already been done. Hence, after a disagreement, always find a place to calm down first. After calming down, think about the issue from your own and the other party’s perspective. If you realise you’re in fault, apologise. If you’re not, find a chance to tell it to the other party in a not-so-direct manner.
At times, “sorry” may seem hard to come out of our mouths, but it is also the very word that can solve most, if not all conflicts. We cannot and must not let a small issue evolve into a huge one. Therefore, should a conflict occur, always settle it firsthand and not let it sit in a corner untouched.
Friends are an important pillar of support in our lives even though they have no blood relations to us. They give us company, help us improve, and prevent us from being too lonely. We may meet many friends in our lives, but true ones are really hard to find. Hence, cherish those whom you are able to speak your heart to. Hopefully, through the suggestions and tips above, you’re able to maintain that wonderful friendship of yours. Today’s blog shall end here. We shall meet again next time. Bye!